Cancer is not a dead end. It may be tough but you can still come out of it with flying colors. You not only have to fight a physical and mental war but an emotional war as well. If you have a strong willpower you can overcome absolute everything. All you need to do is be positive and fight it. In simple terms let the doctors do their job and you do yours with a positive mindset.
Sometimes I feel that such people are special because God choose them for such a thing for which neither clear causes are known nor treatment just for the mere reason that they are the ones who could accept this challenge and can come out of it. There have been cases where even sportspersons like Yuvraj Singh and Lance Armstrong have been detected with the same and they have not only fought back but even got back to their respective profession.
Another important factor is the people around you; the patients don’t need sympathy but just motivation and positive environment around them. Sometimes a few encouraging words are enough for the person to boost up. I have personally felt that with positive thought and mindset you can directly won more than half the battle.
Fighting Cancer 
Sidharth, I call him as ‘SID’ and have known him for at least 10 years now. Still remember the day when he told me he had been detected with ‘cancer’ in biological terms but I think it’s phychological whenever you hear word cancer it just gives you a shock back and I thought how can this happen to my friend.
For many people the first few weeks after the diagnosis are very stressful, shocked, angry, scared, anxious, sad or depressed, trouble thinking, eating or sleeping. Some people feel a sense of loneliness or isolation or that they have lost their identity. Others blame themselves for their cancer or find themselves questioning why cancer has happened to them
My friend who had recently been diagnosed with cancer, or was living with cancer, I was wondering the best way to support him. Even though you want to help your friend through this difficult time, it can be hard to know what to say or do.
But I must say with Sid, the amount of inner strength, self esteem and confidence to cope and love for life he has is the only way anyone can come out of situation he was in. He has amazing strength and positive attitude towards everything that enlights everything around him.
In most cases I have heard and read; is that Cancer treatment can change the way you feel about yourself (your self-esteem). You may feel less confident about who you are and what you can do. Dealing with the cancer diagnosis and the treatment can make you feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster.
But Sid has surely proved these things wrong and have changed the way people should think about cancer I:e emotionally and physically. Few days back(during his recovery) I was talking to him on phone and he said how can anything happen to him as he has to see the world, drive Porsche, Ferrari and all those convertible cars, go to Hawaii and Europe. And even if doctors would have given him time he has left with, then also he would have done these things first. As he doesn’t want to regret what he would miss on. Also never seen such patient before who’s told his family himself that don’t worry, it’s nothing and things will be fine after being diagnosed with cancer.
I was like, look at this guys apart from cancer he has already been through a lot in his life and anyone who would be in his shoes would have gone to mental trauma. But still he has so much of confidence, love for life and positivity within him…. and THAT MADE HIM FIGHT AGAINST CANCER!!!!
Cancer affects your body, but it also affects your emotions and feelings, too. While there are no set rules when it comes to supporting a friend or someone close who has cancer. But after seeing Sid, I think an important part of coping with a cancer diagnosis is recognizing emotions and feelings. Treatment that deals with our emotions and relationships, can help people with cancer feel more upbeat and have a better quality of life. And off course getting a good medical treatment as well.
Recently Sid, got a video recorded of his and have sent to everyone, (while he’s on recovery) thanking god and everyone who prayed for him. Earlier I used to think Cancer treatment can also change the way you feel about your body or scars from surgery or the way your body looks. But SID has surely changed this theory to – Body image may not depend on how you look but how you think you look.
Some people, well I should say everyone worries about how their body changes will impact on relationships with others….but trust me if you have positivity and inner strength within you and love to live like Sid, then no one can stop you fighting against cancer. As he himself has said that he’s looking forward to 2014 Delhi marathon.
I agree no one can never understand what a cancer patient is going through but It may help to talk about how you feel with your partner, family, friend or other people who have had cancer.
But, Some people find it easy to talk about their feelings. Others may never feel comfortable. You need to decide when you are ready to talk. Try not to put it off for too long. Talking about your feelings to a good listener is helpful. This is what my friend Sid thinks and does….
Knowing about Sid’s personal experience of cancer, can be a source of support and inspiration when you or someone you love is going through cancer treatment.
I so pray to god for his and everyone’s good being and wellness. May god give strength and support to everyone to fight against this…
Read this poem some time back, you are “OUR MIGHTY OAK”, my dear friend.
“Stand tall oh mighty oak, for all the world to see,
your strength and undying beauty forever amazes me.
Though storm clouds hover above you,
your branches span the sky,
in search of the radiant sunlight you
count on to survive.
When the winds are high and restless and
you lose a limb or two,
it only makes you stronger, we
could learn so much from you…….” – By Kathy J Parenteau
Object in mirrors are closer than they actually appear. it depends what type of mirror one is using. most of us take have a habit to see smaller or non problems as big as one can think. late ho gaye , barish ho gayi, sar dard ho raha hai tumour to nahin etc etc. some of us are different, exactly opposite to this. they take problems as inversely proportional. Bigger the problem smaller the reaction. abe kuch ni yaar fracture ho gya;) etc etc. Sidharth is such a type. bhai good to have a positive friend like u . Sidharth is inspiration for all of us.
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat,
known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out
of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an
understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a
deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
-Elizabeth Kubler Ross..
Ashu is one such person. He proved there is a power in
positive thinking ..Hearing that you have a cancer is life changing. One
thing which I have seen and find it natural is the patient and the family
crying on “Why me? “. But with Ashu it was “OK ..Its me Now what”.. You have
to fight through some bad days to earn best days of your life .
You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.
Keep going bro..love u.
You are a wonderful being … may god bless you with lots of love and abundance in every sphere of your life…sometimes these situations are introduced in life to make us realize that how we all are connected and how this oneness can work miracles. For me it was a beautiful experience to see how the family of Pranic Healers came together and could support with all their positive energies and intentions 24/7.
This life is further more precious for you so make the best use of it 🙂 and live the life to your fullest – Lots and Lots of Love 🙂
Bhai…ye kya site wite bana dali tune apni iss chhoti si beemari ko lekar…Bhai..Cancer ki kissi zamane mein badi izzat hoti thi…logon ki iske nam se hi f**t jaati thi….lekin ab koi khaas baat nahi hai…ab to ye khansi jukaam jaisa ho gaya hai…you are so fortunate that you are in national capital with best hospitals and doctors at your disposal ( and you can afford them too!)….so just enjoy your roller coaster ride….Remember ? Mard ko kabhi Dard nahi hota….this cancer vancer is nothing for you my marathoner….just get through it fast and start running again…tu hai aag…tu hai aag…ab tu bhaag milkha….All the Best my Flying Sid !
Hey Sid this is a great Blog you started. I know you have the courage and have beaten the cancer quiet easily. You know anyone who has ever had a serious illness knows that but sometimes it comes hiding. Amid the fear and anxiety, there is a kind of fall from grace, a pulling away of the veil, a knowledge that we are not perfect and that the charmed life we have led up to now is not permanent. This is really scary and not everyone can handle it. But the courageous people like you can do it and even can defeat it.
Keep up buddy and enjoy.
Also come to my category and start enjoying the juice that is fresh and leave the fermented one. “Meri maan ismain jyada maja hain”.
Chal take care.
Milte hain.
Sid, sorry for my late entry in this blog 🙂
Well you are an inspiration for all of us. The courage and the kind of attitude(cool, calm) you have shown while you came to know about cancer in you and while telling it to us, is absolutely admirable. We all wish and pray for you and hoping to see you soon with same enthusiasm, zeal and your fun loving attitude. This poem dedicated to you written by an unknown author:
I have cancer. . .But cancer does not have me.
I have cancer.
But cancer does not have me.
Cancer is not who I am.
It is only a bend in the road that is my life’s journey,
An unexpected detour on my path.
It is a lesson in the cosmic classroom that is human existence
So I will pause to rest. . .
And heal. . .
And study the lesson. . .
Before I move on to my life beyond cancer.
I will not give in to fear.
And I will not be discouraged by setbacks.
Setbacks are only opportunities to review the lesson.
I will not be ashamed of my scars.
My scars are the brushstrokes in the masterpiece that is my life.
I will be thankful for the blessings cancer has brought to my life:
People I never would have known,
Love that I’ve never been still enough or quiet enough to witness.
Humility I needed,
Strength I thought I had lost,
Courage I never knew I had.
I will remember that I can still have fun.
And that it’s okay-even healthy-to be silly.
I will remember that to find the joy in the rainbows,
I must endure the rain.
And I will remember that. . .
While I may have cancer,
Cancer does not have me.
Wish you loads of luck, courage, smile, blessings my dear Flying Sid…. 🙂
Hello Sid, My best wishes for you to get well soon, you are inspiring man. regards
I would rather call him SIDHARTH which means one who can tame.
you are the real fighter man…GOD BLESS
Dear Sidharth,
Salute to your will power aka fighting spirit.
You are a role model for numerous people. Truly appreciate on-line mode to outreach people, your experience is noteworthy not only our countrymen but also for needy people across the globe.
If someone has to describe you via quotation to remember it will be
” Tough time doesn’t time, tough people last ”
Sincere wishes for peaceful life ahead !
Good to know you are back in action Sidharth. You are a good example to show world how can strong battle be fought and win. Your every word reflects how positive and optimistic you are towards life
Yes, you are here for a purpose and God have programmed you accordingly. 🙂 God bless you.
Hey Sid,
I know you’re tougher than your sickness. I really admire how you are handling this. I know its difficult but keep fighting hard. I’m wishing for your fast recovery. Get well soon!
We need our keeper back before cricket session start 🙂
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” You have done it so it can be assure that that life will be successful and meaningful going ahead.
Every fighter has one fight that makes or breaks him. What you think ???
I do not want to say ‘Dont worry’ because I know you are not worrying about it.
Just 1 point I want to make. Keep living your life as you have been living till now. In fact with more passion and meaning attached to it 🙂
Dear Sid,
I admire your courage and strength to fight it….You are on a very challenging road right now and doing a great job. My prayers and encouragement are with you.
You are a TRUE inspiration to us all.
What Cancer Cannot Do –
Cancer is so limited… It cannot cripple love, It cannot shatter hope, It cannot corrode faith, It cannot destroy peace, It cannot kill friendship, It cannot suppress memories, It cannot silence courage, It cannot invade the soul, It cannot steal eternal life, It cannot conquer the spirit.
At any given moment you have the power to say this is NOT how the story is going to end. Cheers to life!
Proud to be ur friend Sidharth ! U were and u r truly an inspiration ! U were the greatest strength among our friends and now u have proved it ! May god bless u always !
Sid,
Wish you all the Luck and Blessings in Life !!!!!!!
You are truly a Fighter, inspiration and strength for all of us.
When the best things are not possible, the best may be made of those that are.
Life has no smooth road for any of us; No one has that perfect life which begins with ‘Once upon a time’ and ends with ‘Happily ever after’. Life begins with ‘Welcome to the struggle’ and ends with ‘You are lucky to have survived the journey…’
Be Happy Always, God Bless You !!!!!
Very well said Sid,
Especially the Para, ‘Another important factor ……………..won more than half the battle’
In the Para the flow is : No Sympathy ->Motivation-> Positive Environment – > Encouraging words ->Positive mindset-> Battle WON!
This flow from “No sympathy to Battle Won” is what I see in the attitude of Sid.
I still remember the time when I got to know about Sid’s diagnosis – I was traumatized, my wife was in her last months of pregnancy so could not disclose this with her.
I could not straight away talk to Sid as well: my hesitation was what to talk with him? , Would I be able to motivate him? , Should I ask him how this happened? Thinking! Thinking! Thinking! ….Then I decided to be present in hospital at the time of operation but didn’t happen as planned.
Finally I met him post his operation – and was amazed to see the smile on his face, that was not an ordinary smile it was full of positive mindset. There I understood the importance of being positive.
Now I call him as usual. Hats off to you Sid…you have manged to display the journey from ..’No Sympathy to Battle Won’
Cheers mate:-)
Sidharth i appreciate the positive attitude and smile you always carry with you. God and your attitude will help you to win this battle and you will be able to run the race. We all are with you and proud to be in your friends list
Kudos mere bhai…….
You have always been an inspiration, I still remember the day after college when I shared my kid’s autism diagnosis with you and I say it from the bottom of my heart that your words were the most honest and admirable advice that I ever got.
You did go out of the way to help me in all possible way, and that is what makes you apart. Its not that you had the most ideal personal circumstances yourself but the spirit makes all the difference.
Always a star……
We are proud of you Siddharth! While going through your blog, I could feel the inner strength and motivation you have. May god bless u always.
Hi Siddharth!
You were always infallible as you are today. You had very rightly stated since almighty has put you in this situation he would be more thoughtful about bringing you out more than you do. Every time now when you feel a cold breeze touching your face, its me conveying i pray and care for you.
Pankaj K P Shreyaskar
Your mate at FMS
Dear Sid, feel very proud of you! God bless….
Dear Sid,
I remember a quote.
“Tension lenekka nahin….Denekka hai”
Sidharth Ghosh
Hi Sid,
Feeling very proud of you, you made it like just another exam which you have passed with flying color.
You are a source of inspiration for us.
Anil
Sidharth, have known you as a vibrant person with an undying spirit.. am proud that you are living it in every way! Just sharing Peter Gabriel’s words:
don’t give up
‘cos you have friends
don’t give up
you’re not beaten yet
don’t give up
I know you can make it good!
– wish you the best, Prashasti